“I’m in the fight against cancer.”
“I’m battling diabetes.”
“I’m threatened with high blood pressure.”
“I have an autoimmune disease, so my body is attacking itself.”
This is what I call body war language.
Our language so often falls short of describing truth, which may leads to minor misunderstanding or catastrophic results. In the case of body war language, I believe that we set ourselves up for disaster by using totally inappropriate words to depict what is actually happening.
“Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habit. Watch your habit, they become character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” Lao Tzu said. When it comes to body war language, we reach the same conclusion in a different pattern:
“Watch your words, they become your thoughts. Watch your thoughts, they becomes your health. Watch your health, it becomes your destiny.”
I am not a war zone
When I was first diagnosed with ulcerative colitis, an autoimmune disease, doctors told me it would be a lifelong battle to prevent my body from further attacking itself. I envisioned my body as a war zone, with my healthy colon tissue being destroyed by an innately evil part of my physiology, that had, until now, laid in wait.
Just like our thoughts determine our words, our words shape our thoughts. When we use “war language” to describe health conditions, we illustrate a battlefield inside our body. We begin to understand our inner workings through a lens of “good vs. bad.”
In the case of cancer, we perceive the tumors as “bad” and other cells as “good.” When it comes to something as mild as cellulite, we describe our thighs with a torrent of negative language. Cottage-cheese thighs. Fat and ugly.
But I am not a war zone. You are not a war zone.
Disease is not bad. It does not mean something went wrong. It means our body is working as it should, drawing on protective measures to prolong our life in the short-term. The human body is innately intelligent and each day, it prioritizes how to extend our life in the short term.
When our body is bombarded with stress, environmental toxins, poor nutrition and negativity, it is forced to borrow health from our future to keep us alive. When we provide our body with nourishment and balance, we furnish the materials it needs for immediate health so that the innate intelligence can invest in our long-term health.
Make love, not war, with your body
Here are four subtle but profound ways to kindle a relationship of love, not war, with your body:
1. Change your thoughts and language
Stop referring to your body as a battlefield. Don’t think of the duality of “good vs. bad” in your body. Rather, focus on balancing the areas of dis-ease. Instead of thinking, “I’m battling diabetes” you could say, “My body has trouble keeping my blood sugar balanced.”
2. Send love to your affected body part
Love is an action. Love is a feeling. Love is also a vibration, a vibration of profound healing energy. When we send love to a body part, we practice self-healing.
In the same way, hate is a powerful vibration capable of destruction. By hating a body part or body system that is imbalanced, we further impair our ability to heal.
Consider the “Rice Experiment” conducted by Dr. Emoto, in which rice pleasantly fermented when given words of love, but rotted when given words of hate.
If you have hypothyroidism, for example, don’t hate your thyroid, send it love. If you have a tumor, tell yourself that you love each cell in your body. Tell yourself that you love that your body is capable of re-balancing and healing.
3. Don’t take ownership of a disease
Sometimes this is unavoidable for the sake of practical conversation, but I try to avoid saying, “my Hashimoto’s” or “my ulcerative colitis.” By telling myself that these are “my” disease, my body will see these imbalances as a part of my identity.
They are not my identity. They are not my diseases.
4. Practice The Golden Rule
Do unto your body as you would have others do to you. Would you want others calling your stomach pudgy? Then don’t call your stomach pudgy! Don’t even think it. Love your body unconditionally and it will love you back.
Please join me in making body love, not body war!